So I got a tumblr. Click here to follow or view or whatever. Anyways, so of course this was probably a bad idea to get a tumblr because already I have become addicted. I love it, it's so fun. If you don't have one, you should get one. That being said, I have a little rant about tumblr that I would like to put here.
I have been having a hard time finding good recovery blogs to follow. The majority of them are either inactive or there are certain things on the tumblr that I don't agree with. One thing that really ticked me off was I found a really good recovery tumblr ran by a mom and her daughter (the daughter was recovering from an eating disorder). Unfortunately, both mother and daughter had decided that it was too much upkeep and time to continue running the account so they stopped posting even though they had lots of followers and gave lots of great advice. This all is understandable because they would post multiple times a day and try to answer every person's questions and comments... that would take a lot out of you if you have a lot of followers. The thing that made me mad though was when asked about passing the account off to someone else who would continue helping people, they said that they had gotten too attached to the account so they would not be doing that. I personally think this was a selfish move on their part because of the need for this tumblr to exist... which I'll get into in a moment. There are a couple other recovery and/or positive body image tumblrs out there but here is the problem I have with the majority of them.
1. A lot of them talk about numbers. This is, in my opinion, one of the worst possible things you can do to try and create a recovery environment. Talking in numbers means giving exact weights, amounts of calories, grams of sugar in food, size of pants... anything that has a specific comparable number. This is one of the most triggering things for a person with an eating disorder to hear. It immediately sets off the "I must be thinner than them" attitude. Hearing this kind of talk from the wrong person could send someone into relapse and being inundated with this information is not a good idea for anyone.
2. Posting pictures of your body to promote healthy body image. This is a dangerous game to play. On one of the tumblrs I found, the basic format was to post a picture of yourself, whether it be nude, clothed, headshot, a leg.. whatever. Then, beneath it tell your story. While it is true that the majority of the people posting pictures on this website are not media-esque body typed, these pictures are still troublesome in my mind. Does posting a picture, along with your height and weight, really mean that you love your body. Or will doing this help you to gain some sort of insight and suddenly love your body... no. What I think it actually is, is people looking for acceptance that they have not already given themselves. Of course when they post a picture, lots of people comment on how beautiful they are and say empowering things. However, if they truly accepted their bodies why do then need to show them off on the tumblr. They wouldn't need anyone's compliments or "likes". I totally understand the need to share story. I think that is a great thing, as long as you do it right. But the need to include these pictures speaks of something more. A need to be accepted by an online non-bodyhating community. I don't think any of these people will truly find the acceptance they seek from a tumblr.
Well that is my tumblr rant. I know I have not been posting on here lately but hopefully I can change that. Hope all is well!